I recall when I was younger (inexperienced), I LOVED talking about sex. I loved talking about it because, although I knew about the basics, I assumed talking about it meant I actually understood it.
Then after being with my boyfriend for some time, I finally reached the milestone and had sex.
After I had experienced being so close to someone, I slowly stopped talking about it with my friends. It was an intimate experience that does not need anyone’s approval, and it really doesn’t matter how “great” it was. To this day, I rarely talk about sex. I make jokes occasionally, but when it comes to sharing details, that is NO ONE’s business.
Not only have I stopped talking about my personal sex life, I have started to hate hearing about my friends or others talk about their sexcapades.
When someone goes on and on about how “great” it was, or how “big” he was and so on, I think back to the days when I was an innocent girl talking about sex (exaggeration, exaggeration, EXAGGERATION).
You can talk all night long about how long you two last, how huge he is or how many times you get off, but it will go through one ear and out the other. I’m just going to sit there all like, “…okay.”
How about this!
Sex usually happens behind closed doors (unless you prefer being a bit wild), and I think that’s where it should stay.
When I think about public displays of affection, I expect couples to hold hands, hug and kiss in public, compliment one another and LOOK like they love each other. I don’t want to see the contrary: you two getting it on at the park.
Here’s another way to look at it!
Actions speak louder than words. In this context, this belief is reversible.
If I acknowledge a couple that isn’t very affectionate in public yet, the girl speaks highly of their time in the bedroom, that tells me a lot about them.
BUT if I acknowledge a couple that constantly portrays how much they love each other (i.e. PDA), and they never mention their sexcapades, I would like to believe that they have a stable relationship.
They don’t feel the need to exaggerate or impress anyone.
Another thing about talking about sex…just in general, please STOP. I don’t want to know what position you prefer, or what easily gets you off. Shouldn’t your lover only know that? If you happen to tell me that your sensitive spot is your neck, I’m going to be scared to come near you. Please control yourself. MY GOODNESS.
Answer this for me….
Does your significant other treat you well?
Does he/she make you feel special?
Are they romantic?
Does he/she make you feel like you are the only one for him/her?
Is he/she your “partner in crime?”
Are you two a team?
Are you guys actually in love?
Congratulations to you for finding someone who fucks you like crazy, but does that make him/her a good life partner?
As a couple you may share a wonderful sex drive, but sex is the last thing driving the relationship forward.
You need communication, mutual love, appreciation and patience.
If you find yourself constantly complaining about your relationship yet you go on and on about how “great” the sex is, I’m sorry my dear, but you are fucked.
This is what I have thought for years ! You are wise beyond your age ,,,,,xo