Some people are scared of conflict, so they avoid it at all costs.
I like to think of myself as someone who wins staring contests with problems. I don’t let issues walk all over me; I grab them by the collar and see what’s hiding up their sleeves.
You will get nowhere in life (i.e. relationships, academics, work, etc.) if you brush your problems under the rug.
You will get nowhere if you say: “I don’t know.”
Am I a hypocrite?
Have I answered with an “I don’t know” before?
But here’s what I don’t do:
Stop taking responsibility for my actions & expect others to coax me through something I brought on myself.
What’s silly is that, people don’t realize HOW MUCH they’re stating when they claim they know NOTHING.
If we get into an argument that was triggered by your actions (i.e. you lied to me; you betrayed me) and you blatantly tell me, “I don’t know what to do,” then what is the point of fixing the problem, since you have NO IDEA what to do?
Okay – maybe at that exact moment, you can’t think of a way to make it up to me. But by saying “I don’t know” shows me that you are not willing to make an EFFORT in figuring out how to fix the issue.
Don’t say, “I don’t know” and proceed to tell me what’s wrong with YOU. We are supposed to be discussing OUR problems, not YOUR problems.
There is a scene in one of my all-time favorite movies “Fast Times at Ridgemont High” that fixates on the phrase “I don’t know” and I couldn’t agree with it more.
The next time you are trying to work something out – whether that’d be, improving your overall grade in class or resolving an issue with a close friend – STOP before you say, “I don’t know.” Actually think of something you can DO to contribute.
If you can’t think of anything; if you think the relationship is days from ending or you couldn’t careless about your grade, then say nothing.
Because frankly, “I don’t know” why you’re wasting anyone’s time.